Win at Home: Healthy marriages
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One of the best ways to win at home is having a healthy marriage. A healthy marriage is good for each spouse, but more importantly, it is good for each child.
Children are walking video recorders. More is caught than taught. I believe most of the issues young people have in life can be traced back to their parents’ examples.
I worked with young people for more than 30 years, and I have seen this in many of my students. Parents do not realize the impact unhealthy relationships have on their children.
Three ways to have a healthy marriage:
Watch your mouth.
- You never get a good result from bad words.
- Your marriage will never rise above your mouth.
- Good relationships have good communication.
- There is no such thing as inconsequential speech.
- Words do not evaporate. They accumulate.
- Good words have power. Bad words have power.
- Our tongue has a disproportionate influence over our whole life.
Be angry, but be nice.
- Do not deny your anger.
- Do not justify mean actions with anger.
- Do not go to bed angry.
- Depression is anger turned inward.
- Confront in love.
- Complain and do not criticize.
- Listen to your spouse and believe them.
- Forgive and let it go.
- The first three minutes of a conversation are most important.
Serve one another.
- Men want respect.
- Women want security.
- Do not keep score.
- Touch each other often in a nonsexual way.
- Talk. Listen.
Three ways to win at home:
- Serve your spouse.
- Use uplifting language when talking to your spouse.
- Work on your marriage.
“Win at Home” is a series of opinion columns written by author and keynote speaker Willie Spears. Be sure to catch the “Win at Home Podcast” in January 2022 and learn more at www.williespears.com.
